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About titflasher

Writer, blogger, animal activist, people activist, dream-catcher maker, mommy to 9 cats and a roving band of foxes ... Blog name comes from my father's suggestion for the title of my autobiography ... after my mother's and my awful habit of flashing whenever the security police took our photo in the dark old days of apartheid South Africa. I love nature, including creepy crawlies and people, find life fascinating and frustrating and have two terrible weaknesses - nictotine and animals in distress ... can't abide the latter situation and can't give up the former. I'm Pagan but not anti-Christian, funny but quite serious, light-hearted but can be annoying. I am warm-hearted until someone p*sses on me too much, then I get soggy and even. Feel free to link me but all the words on these pages is copyrighted, so copy it and take the credit and I will find you and slap you upside the head, hard. The blog is probably best read via category as there is loads on here already, and I just got started :-)

Where is the humanity? Where is the mercy?

Originally posted on Phil's Boring Blog:
EVEN DALEKS UNDERSTAND MERCY. But not, it seems, the DWP, the Department for Work and Pensions. That’s the conclusion I reached this week as I signed yet another cheque from 5 Quid for…

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For Greg and all who loved him

Originally posted on confessions of a serial titflasher:
Last weekend I lost a friend. He slipped through my hands just at the last moment, at the point where things were so bad for him, they simply had to get better.…

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Dear Kayla

Dear Kayla I’m using your real name in the vain and pointless hope that one day you will read this. I know you are about 10/11 years old in 2015, that you like pretty things, startlingly adult perfume, that you … Continue reading

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Losing Dad … a decade on

Ten years ago today, I was about to board a plane to Plymouth, having rearranged it after making a trip to see my father a few weeks before in South Africa, who had been diagnosed with terminal cancer.  It was … Continue reading

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Felix joined us in the spring of 2001.  I’d seen her eating the foxes’ dinner in the garden, a sturdy, solid black and white cat with the most adorable markings – it looked like God had painted a line across … Continue reading

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Old post rediscovered: Things I never thought I’d hear myself saying …

The past five weeks or so have passed in a blur of Life! Love! Work! Cats! Drama! People! But along the way, there are several things which have passed my lips which I never thought I’d hear … 1. It’s … Continue reading

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To those of you who voted Tory … (yes that means you)

Those who know me well know that the recent election results have left me aghast, alarmed and pretty much heartbroken. Those who know me well and who voted Tory, are really quite amused at what they perceive as my rather … Continue reading

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Rest in peace my beautiful Arthur

Arthur Jenkin was born somewhere in South London and dumped with his three siblings, at my friend’s petshop. Walking by one day, with plans now that I owned my house, to get an older cat that no one wanted (for … Continue reading

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And then, suddenly there were eight …

On Wednesday evening at around 5pm, Guinevere took her last breath as I cuddled and stroked her and told her she was a brave girl, how much I loved her, and how proud I was of her. I was in … Continue reading

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is wishing all her readers a very …

Merry Christmas. Blessings and love to you all xx

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